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When to Have Sex for the Best Chance of Getting Pregnant

"Making a Baby Should Be Fun… So Why Does It Feel Like a Job?"

When my partner and I first started trying for a baby, sex was just… well, sex. Fun, spontaneous, normal. We did it whenever we felt like it and assumed nature would do its thing.

Fast forward a few months with no pregnancy test turning positive, and suddenly, sex became less about passion and more about precision.

There was tracking. There were apps. There were “Babe, I’m ovulating” messages in the middle of the day. And over time, what was once exciting turned into something that felt more like a scheduled work meeting than a romantic moment.

And let’s be real—when you’ve been trying for years, the whole process can start to feel mechanical. The pressure, the hope, the disappointment—it all builds up, and suddenly sex isn’t about connection anymore, it’s about getting the job done.

So if you’re in this TTC journey and wondering when exactly you should be having sex to actually make a baby, let’s break it down—without the stress.


When Is the Best Time to Have Sex to Get Pregnant?

The short answer? Before you ovulate.

The long answer? There’s a tiny window every cycle where pregnancy can actually happen, and if you miss it, you’re waiting another month.

🗓️ Your fertile window = The 5 days leading up to ovulation + ovulation day itself.

Why? Because sperm can live inside you for up to 5 days, but your egg? It’s got about 12-24 hours before it’s gone. So if you want sperm ready and waiting when ovulation happens, timing is everything.


The "Golden Rule" of TTC Timing

✔️ Start having sex a few days BEFORE ovulation.
✔️ Aim for every other day during your fertile window.
✔️ If you can, try to have sex ON ovulation day.

Translation: Don’t wait for ovulation day to start trying. By then, it might already be too late.


Best TTC Sex Schedule (Without Killing the Mood)

👶 Trying to conceive? Follow this schedule:

  • If your cycle is regular: Start around cycle day 10-11 and have sex every other day until a few days after ovulation.
  • If you’re tracking ovulation: Start as soon as you get fertile cervical mucus or a positive ovulation test.
  • If your cycle is irregular: Have sex every 2-3 days throughout your cycle to cover all bases.

🚨 But what if we can’t do it that often? That’s okay! Sperm can survive for days, so if every other day feels like too much, just try to time it at least once or twice in your fertile window.


How to Keep TTC Sex From Feeling Like a Chore

🙋‍♀️ Let’s be honest: When you’ve been trying for months (or years), sex can start to feel like just another thing on your to-do list. So how do you keep it from feeling forced?

✔️ Ditch the pressure: Instead of making it all about baby-making, focus on connection.
✔️ Don’t just have sex during ovulation: Keep intimacy alive throughout the month.
✔️ Try new things: Switch up the setting, timing, or approach. Keeping it fresh = less stress.
✔️ Skip the “I’m ovulating” announcement: Just initiate without making it feel like a fertility assignment.
✔️ Have a break if you need it: If sex is starting to feel like a chore, step back, reconnect, and come back to it with a fresh mindset.


Final Thoughts

Trying to conceive changes a lot—including how we view sex. What starts as a fun, intimate experience can quickly turn into ovulation-tracking, scheduled, pressure-filled TTC sex.

But at the end of the day, this journey is about creating a baby out of love—not just good timing. So focus on connection first, timing second. Because while schedules and sperm survival matter, so does keeping the magic alive.

💬 Have you experienced TTC sex burnout? How do you keep it from feeling like a chore? Drop your thoughts in the comments!

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