The Day I Realized I Was More Than Just a Milk Machine 🍼🙃
I wish I was exaggerating, but there was a moment—somewhere between cleaning banana mush off the floor and hearing "mama" for the 400th time in 3 minutes—when I genuinely forgot who I was. Like, not in an existential crisis kind of way, more like "when was the last time I did something for myself that wasn’t related to poop, productivity, or people-pleasing?"
After 5 years of infertility, IVF battles, hormone overloads, then finally becoming a mom to a wonderful toddler and now expecting my second baby girl… you'd think I'd be overflowing with self-love. But truth? I’ve had to fight for it. Every. Single. Day.
And I know I’m not alone.
So why do moms—especially the ones doing all the things—struggle with feeling worthy? And more importantly… how the heck do we fix it?
🚨 Why Moms Struggle with Self-Worth
1. We Tie Our Worth to Productivity
- If we’re not crossing things off a to-do list, we feel useless.
- But spoiler alert: you're not a to-do list. You're a whole human.
2. We Put Ourselves Last
- "I’ll rest when the house is clean." (So… never?)
- Our needs become optional while everyone else's are urgent.
3. We Compare Ourselves to Everyone
- Hello Instagram, goodbye sanity.
- Newsflash: That mom with the perfect bento box lunches probably cried in her closet yesterday too.
4. We’ve Inherited Generational Patterns
- Our own moms maybe never modeled self-worth or boundaries.
- We’re breaking cycles—which is amazing, but also exhausting.
🛠️ How to Fix It (Without Running Away to a Remote Island… Though Tempting)
✅ 1. Reclaim Your Identity
- Make space (even 10 minutes) for things that light YOU up.
- You were someone before you were "mama"—and she still exists.
💬 2. Affirmations That Don’t Feel Cringey
- Try: "I am allowed to take up space. I am worthy even when I rest."
- Repeat daily until your inner critic shuts up.
✂️ 3. Cut Out the Guilt Talk
- You’re not selfish for having needs.
- You're human. And your kids need to see what that looks like too.
🧠 4. Shift the Inner Dialogue
- Catch that voice saying "you’re not enough" and ask: "Would I say this to my daughter?"
- If not—rewrite it, babe.
💃 5. Surround Yourself with Empowered Women
- Your vibe matters. Find moms who get it.
- Unfollow people who make you feel like garbage. Even if it's Karen from PTA.
❤️ Final Thoughts: You Are Already Enough
You are enough without proving, earning, or fixing anything.
You are enough with messy hair, with doubts, with days where you hide in the bathroom for peace.
And the moment you start treating yourself like you matter, everything starts to shift—from how you show up, to how your kids learn to love themselves.
Because your self-worth? It’s not a luxury. It’s a legacy.