Letâs be real for a second. When youâre a new parent, the whole âsleep is for the weakâ thing turns from a joke to a brutal reality. đ I mean, remember that first night home from the hospital? Youâre staring at your tiny human, wondering how youâre supposed to get any sleep when they have no interest in giving you a break. And then it hits you â sleep deprivation is the new normal. Welcome to parenthood!
I vividly remember those early days with my baby. I thought, "Oh, Iâll be fine! Babies sleep all the time, right?" Well, turns out, babies like to sleep⊠just not when you need it. So, I quickly learned some tricks to survive (and even thrive) on less sleep. Spoiler alert: Itâs not as easy as just napping when the baby naps. But it is possible to make it through, and hereâs how.
1. Take Turns with Your Partner (Teamwork Makes the Dream Work) đȘ
Letâs face itâno one should be expected to handle everything alone. Sleep deprivation is hard enough when itâs just you, but itâs even harder when you donât have a partner to share the load.
- What I Do: My partner and I would take shifts. One of us would handle the night shift while the other tried to get some sleep.
- Why It Helps: Sleep shifts give both of you the chance to rest, even if itâs just for a few hours. And trust me, those few hours make all the difference.
2. Sleep When the Baby Sleeps (I Know, It Sounds Simple, but Hear Me Out) đïž
Okay, I know, youâve probably heard this advice a million times. But itâs easy to dismiss when youâve got laundry, dishes, and a million other things on your to-do list. The truth? You canât pour from an empty cup. đŹ
- What I Do: I stopped stressing about getting everything done and focused on just getting some rest when my baby was napping.
- Pro Tip: It doesnât always need to be a âperfectâ nap. Sometimes closing your eyes for even 20 minutes can make a big difference.
3. Caffeine is Your Friend (But Donât Go Overboard) â
Letâs talk caffeine. I donât know about you, but during those early days, coffee wasnât just a drinkâit was a lifeline.
- What I Do: I didnât hold back on my morning coffee. But I also made sure to avoid the dreaded afternoon caffeine crash by cutting back after 2 p.m.
- Why It Helps: A cup of coffee or tea can give you the energy you need to push through the day, but avoid too much caffeine, as it can interfere with your own sleep when you finally get the chance to rest.
**4. Donât Be Afraid to Ask for Help (No, Seriously) đ
When your babyâs been up all night, and you feel like youâve been awake for 5 days straight, asking for help isnât a sign of weaknessâitâs a sign of strength.
- What I Do: I reached out to my family and friends when I needed a break. A little help, like someone taking the baby for an hour or two, made a huge difference.
- Pro Tip: If you can afford a night nurse or a babysitter, go for it! Youâre allowed to take a break. And trust me, a well-rested parent is a better parent.
5. Keep Nighttime Feedings Quiet & Calm đ
When youâre sleep-deprived, those nighttime feedings can feel like a marathon. But making your night routine as calm as possible can help both you and the baby.
- What I Do: I kept the lights low, didnât engage in any loud talking, and kept the environment as soothing as possible. The goal was to let baby know that nighttime wasnât party time.
- Why It Helps: Keeping things quiet and peaceful helps signal to your baby that night is for sleeping, not playing.
6. Keep Your Expectations Realistic đ
Letâs face it: Sleep deprivation is hard. But beating yourself up about it will only make it worse. It's important to remember that this phase is temporary (even though it feels like it will last forever in the moment).
- What I Do: I started reminding myself that I was doing the best I could, and that it was okay if I didnât have everything perfectly organized or done.
- Pro Tip: Lower your expectations for âperfectâ and embrace the âgood enoughâ mantra.
7. Take Care of Your Mental Health đ§
Being sleep-deprived can take a serious toll on your mental health. It can make you feel overwhelmed, anxious, and even a bit like you're losing your mind. But taking small steps to care for your mental well-being can help you stay grounded.
- What I Do: I made time for myself, even if it was just a few minutes a day. Whether it was deep breathing, meditation, or just enjoying a few quiet moments with a cup of tea, it helped.
- Pro Tip: Donât feel guilty for needing a mental break. You deserve it!
Final Thoughts: It Gets Better, Promise đ
Sleep deprivation is a rite of passage in parenthood (unfortunately), but you donât have to go through it alone. By taking turns with your partner, adjusting your routine, and asking for help, you can survive the sleepless nights. And hey, donât forgetâthis phase is temporary, even though it doesnât feel like it when youâre in the trenches. đ
Remember: Take it day by day, and cut yourself some slack. Youâre doing amazing, even if you feel like youâre running on caffeine and baby snuggles. đ