Let’s be real, the evenings as a mom are not exactly the peaceful wind-down we all dream of. There’s no “Netflix and chill” moment unless you count staring blankly at the TV while your kids’ toys try to trip you as you walk through the living room. 😅

When I first became a mom, my nighttime routine was basically chaos. Between running after a toddler and trying to get everything ready for the next day, I barely had time to think, let alone unwind. But trust me, I learned that if I didn’t find a way to relax and care for myself at the end of the day, I’d be running on fumes the next morning. And nobody has time for that.

So, I started small—just a few minutes of me-time each night. Over time, I built a routine that not only helped me relax but also gave me the energy to handle whatever the next day threw my way. 💪

1. Set the Mood with Soft Lighting 🕯️

We all know the power of lighting—why do you think candles and fairy lights exist? Creating a calming atmosphere in the evening is one of the easiest ways to transition from chaos to calm.

• What I Do: I turn off the harsh overhead lights and switch to lamps or candles. I even have a few fairy lights I hang around the house—yes, I’m one of those moms. ✨
  
• Pro Tip: If you can’t stand the mess, at least dim the lights to hide it. 😉
  

2. Put Your Phone Away (No, Seriously) 📱

I get it. It's tempting to scroll through Instagram or TikTok after the kids are in bed. But if you really want to sleep better, you’ve got to put the phone away.

• What I Do: About 30 minutes before I want to sleep, I stash my phone out of sight. Out of sight, out of mind, right?
  
• Why It Works: The blue light from screens messes with your melatonin production, making it harder to fall asleep. So, give your brain a break and enjoy some quiet time.
  

3. A Warm Bath (Or Shower, If You’re Short on Time) 🛀

You know that feeling when you sink into a warm bath and your muscles start to melt? Yeah, I live for that. It’s like a mini-vacation in my own bathroom.

• What I Do: I run a hot bath with some relaxing Epsom salts or a few drops of essential oils (lavender is my go-to for relaxation). If I’m feeling really fancy, I’ll add a face mask.
  
• Pro Tip: Don’t forget to lock the bathroom door for some undisturbed "me-time." It’s the only place where you’re guaranteed a little privacy. 🙄
  

4. Meditate or Practice Deep Breathing 🧘‍♀️

After a day of constant motion and demands, it’s easy to feel like your brain is on overdrive. Meditation or deep breathing can help slow things down. Even if you're not a meditation pro, 5-10 minutes can work wonders.

• What I Do: I use a meditation app (Headspace is my favorite) or just focus on deep breathing. I take long, slow breaths, counting to four as I inhale and exhale. It helps calm my mind and body.
  
• Why It Works: Deep breathing reduces cortisol (the stress hormone) and helps activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which makes you feel relaxed.
  

5. Write It Down (Journal or Gratitude List) ✍️

Sometimes, my brain just won’t shut off, and I can’t get the stress of the day out of my head. That’s when I take a few minutes to write down my thoughts.

• What I Do: I either journal about my day or write down three things I’m grateful for. It helps me focus on the positive and clear my mind before bed.
  
• Pro Tip: Keep it short. Just a few sentences or bullet points will do. If you're really pressed for time, write down one thing that went well today. 🌟
  

6. Prepare for Tomorrow (Without Overdoing It) 📅

Let’s be honest—mornings with kids can be a nightmare if you’re scrambling for clothes, snacks, or even just the motivation to get out of bed.

• What I Do: I try to prepare as much as I can the night before—laying out clothes for the kids, packing their bags, and making sure I’ve got everything I need for work or appointments.
  
• Why It Helps: Doing a few things ahead of time helps me feel less overwhelmed in the morning and allows me to focus on the important stuff, like surviving the first 30 minutes after waking up. 😜
  

7. Make Time for a Quick Pamper Session 💅

Let’s be real: self-care doesn’t need to take an hour to be effective. A 10-minute routine can do wonders for how you feel.

• What I Do: Sometimes it’s as simple as putting on a sheet mask while I watch my favorite TV show or painting my nails while sipping some chamomile tea.
  
• Why It Works: Taking a few minutes to do something just for yourself boosts your mood and makes you feel more grounded and refreshed.
  

8. Bedtime Tea (or Hot Cocoa, Because You Deserve It) 🍵

You know that feeling when you curl up in bed with a warm drink? It’s pure bliss.

• What I Do: I drink a cup of caffeine-free tea like chamomile or peppermint to help me unwind. If I’m really feeling fancy, I’ll treat myself to some hot cocoa with a pinch of cinnamon. 😌
  
• Pro Tip: Make it a ritual. It’s one of those simple pleasures that can make your nighttime routine feel more intentional.
  

Final Thoughts: Your Nighttime Routine = Your Superpower 🌙

Moms, we juggle so much every day that it’s easy to forget about ourselves. But establishing a nighttime routine, even just a few minutes of personal time, can be a game-changer for your mental wellness.

You don’t need a fancy spa day to reset; you just need a few intentional moments to slow down, recharge, and prioritize your peace of mind. 💖

So, the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed out, try incorporating some of these tips into your evening routine. And remember: You’ve got this, mama! 🌟