Dear Wannabe Diary,

This morning started like a dream. My toddler and I got ready quickly, and with the help of my grandma—because my mom, who usually does drop-offs, is currently skiing in Italy (you know, where I should be)—we headed to daycare. My grandma stepped in to lift my toddler into her seat since I’m still on the no lifting orders from my OB. Bless her soul.

Here’s the shocker: my toddler, who usually cries all the way to daycare, was practically skipping with excitement. Honestly, same. She missed her friends, the toys, the songs, the routine—basically all the things I can’t provide while stuck on partial bed rest.

The Reels Drama: Why So Serious?

And then came the hate comments. Yup, the reel I made yesterday—me barely holding it together before remembering daycare starts tomorrow—riled up some very opinionated strangers.

Here’s the gist of the DMs I received:

• "Why even have kids if you just want to send them to daycare?"
• "Moms like you shouldn’t be allowed to have kids."

Excuse me, what? You’re making these grand conclusions about me based on a single 10-second reel? I mean, who hurt you?

It’s honestly baffling how some people think it’s okay to throw their frustrations onto complete strangers. These comments had me questioning everything. For a brief moment, I almost deleted the reel, thinking, Is this even worth it? Why am I doing this?

But you know what? Old me would’ve deleted it. She would’ve panicked, felt like a failure, and wondered how to make everyone happy. New me? I’m not here to cater to strangers who can’t scroll past a joke.

Let’s Set the Record Straight

To anyone wondering, I love my kids more than life itself. I stayed home with my toddler until she was almost two—well past the age most kids in our country start daycare. I planned to keep her home until she was three, but complications in this pregnancy meant I couldn’t give her the attention she deserved. So yes, she started daycare earlier than planned, for her benefit.

And for the record? She’s off daycare every summer for three months so we can spend that time together as a family. So please, take your judgments somewhere else.

A Message to the Haters

What happened to scrolling past things that don’t resonate with you? Why waste your time judging someone you don’t know? These reels are meant to be funny and relatable—not a parenting manifesto.

If you’re here to hate, maybe check out this article I wrote about handling negativity (link below). It might help.

Today I Wannabe Immune to Comments (and Germs)

Finding My Voice

This blog isn’t just about sharing the good stuff—it’s about being real. The messy moments, the doubts, the wins, the losses. If you can’t handle that, this isn’t the space for you.

And yes, I almost caved. I nearly deleted everything to avoid the negativity. But this year, I promised myself I’d do things differently. No more editing myself to please people who don’t know me. This blog? These posts? They’re mine. My space, my rules.

So no, I’m not here to throw hate back at the haters, but I am here to call it out and hope someone, somewhere, realizes that negativity is a choice—and it’s one I refuse to make.

Full Circle: Missing My Toddler Already

Oh, and in case you’re wondering how my day is going now that my toddler’s back at daycare?

I miss her. Four hours in, and I already miss her little voice, her chaos, and even her tantrums. Classic mom move, right? But hey, at least I finally got to write this in peace (and maybe squeeze in a meditation).

Until tomorrow,

Wannabe Unbothered (But Let’s Be Real: Still Slightly Bothered)